I know you may look at someone you know in mourning and wonder when they’ll snap out of it.I understand because I use to think that way too.Okay, maybe at the time I was self-aware enough or guilty enough not to think it quite that explicitly, even in my own head. It might have come in the form of a growing impatience toward someone in mourning or a gradual dismissing of their sadness over time or maybe in my intentionally avoiding them as the days passed. It was subtle to be sure, but I can distinctly remember reaching the place where my compassion for grieving friends had reached its capacity—and it was long before they stopped hurting.
Your liver does a lot for you, and these are just a few things that you can do to support its function. Be mindful of how you are feeling throughout your day, remember that a symptom is your body telling you that something is wrong and make the appropriate preventative steps.I recommend cleansing with the change of seasons, as the colon stimulating component of cleansing is of much value to the liver and for your other systems of detoxification. Remain aware and be in control, you can’t live without your liver, so give it some love!
While it was a shock to discover that she had missed the first weeks of her son’s life, the bigger surprise might be the reason why. The illness that had landed Melissa in the hospital and brought her to the brink of death wasn’t pneumonia after all. It was “just” the flu.
Three Methods for Working with ChaosBY PEMA CHÖDRÖN| .Times of chaos and challenge can be the most spiritually powerful… if we are brave enough to rest in their space of uncertainty. Pema Chödrön describes three ways to use our problems as the path to awakening and joy.Sometimes late at night or on a long walk with a friend, we find ourselves discussing our ideas about how to live and how to act and what is important in life. If we’re studying Buddhism and practicing meditation, we might talk of no-self and emptiness, of patience and generosity, of loving-kindness and compassion. We might have just read something or heard some teachings that turned our usual way of seeing things upside down. We feel that we’ve just reconnected with a truth we’ve always known and that if we could just learn more about it, our life would be delightful and rich.See also: “Pema Chödrön: A Lion’s Roar Collector’s Edition” is available for pre-order now.
Sepsis, a potentially deadly reaction to infection, has drawn increased attention in recent years.Last week, Governor Bruce Rauner signed “Gabby’s Law,” a measure that requires hospitals to develop plans for the early detection and treatment of Sepsis.“Sepsis is a life-threatening condition which, if not identified and treated appropriately, can escalate pretty fast,” said Dr. Vidya Sundareshan, an associate professor at the SIU School of Medicine. “What it really means is a dysregulated response of the body to some kind of infection which can be bacterial, viral or fungal.”National data reports about 1 million people in the U.S. develop Sepsis each year; between 28 and 50 percent of those die.“Somebody with an advanced age, who has been in-and-out of the hospital for different reasons, so having received antibiotics in the past puts them at risk for multi drug resistant infections,” Sundareshan said. “If somebody is living in a nursing home, somebody who’s diabetic, somebody who has immune deficiency conditions, all these are some of the risk factors.”Researchers have focused on preventing sepsis, Sundareshan said.“There’s a lot of research that has been going on for years, and we still have a very high mortality associated with Sepsis,” Sundareshan said. “There are guidelines that get changed and updated regularly. In fact, this is one of the parameters on which hospitals are even judged on how they’re performing
We need never be ashamed of our tears. – Charles DickensDid you know crying is actually good for you? According to neuroscientist and tear researcher Dr. William H. Frey II, PhD, “crying is not only a human response to sorrow and frustration, it’s a healthy one. Crying is a natural way to reduce emotional stress that, left unchecked, has negative physical affects on the body, including increasing the risk of cardiovascular disease and other stress-related disorders.”Research shows that 85 percent of women and 73 percent of men feel less angry and sad after crying than they did before. Many people feel that crying makes them weak and unable to cope with their lives and emotions, when in reality, crying represents the exact opposite!HERE ARE 5 REASONS WHY CRYING A LOT MEANS YOU’RE MENTALLY TOUGH:
1. Resolve all conflicts before you goShukla recounts the story of Shri Ram Sagar Mishr, a Sanskrit scholar of his times. Mishr was the eldest of six brothers and was closest to the youngest one. Years ago an ugly argument between the two brothers led to a wall to partition the house.In his final days, Mishr walked to the guesthouse carrying his little paan case and asked to keep room no. 3 reserved for him. He was sure he will pass away on the 16th day from his arrival. On the 14th day he said, “Ask my estranged brother of 40 years to come see me. This bitterness makes my heart heavy. I am anxious to resolve every conflict.”
Van Der Kolk’s thesis is that after trauma we are left with a different nervous system and we are trying to control our inner turmoil. He writes, “These attempts to maintain control over unbearable physiological reactions can result in a whole range of physical symptoms, including fibromyalgia, chronic fatigue, and other autoimmune diseases.”(p.53). Dr. Van Der Kolk has introduced the diagnosis of Developmental Trauma Disorder in the Appendix of his book. It is a useful guide for those of us who are hyper-vigilant, highly sensitive, inundated with unpleasant bodily sensations, fearful and yet willing to change the brain and “befriend the body.” He writes “Being frightened means that you live in a body that is always on guard.” (p.102) That defines fibromyalgia. We can begin to reconnect with ourselves; it isn’t a hopeless scenario. We can begin with Talk Therapy, but then progress to Mindfulness Meditation, yoga, mild exercise, and touching or being touched in a gentle non-threatening way. These are the ways to begin healing.
Why We’re Fated to Be Lonely (But That’s OK)There are few more shameful confessions to make than that we are lonely. The basic assumption is that no respectable person could ever feel isolated – unless they had just moved country or been widowed. Yet in truth, a high degree of loneliness is an inexorable part of being a sensitive, intelligent human. It’s a built-in feature of a complex existence. There are several big reasons for this: – Much of what we need recognised and confirmed by others – a lot of what it would be extremely comforting to share – is going to be disturbing to society at large. Many of the ideas in the recesses of our minds are too odd, contrary, subtle or alarming to be safely revealed to anyone else. We face a choice between honesty and acceptability and – understandably – mostly choose the latter.
Inga Clendinnen was a brilliant historian and an extraordinary writer. She was fearless and endlessly curious. She understood the limits of history and the power of intuition. So many of her students remember what a gifted and inspiring teacher she was back in the day at La Trobe University. We all learned so much from her. An internationally acclaimed historian of Aztec and Mayan culture and society, Inga came to Text when a different phase of her life had begun after her liver transplant in 1994 when she was sixty. Her new liver not only saved her life, it unleashed her writing. Australian literature owes a debt to her surgeons because their skill allowed Inga to spread her wings. Illness, she said, made her a writer. It ‘liberated me from the routines which would have delivered me, unchallenged and unchanged, to discreet death’. She stopped teaching and decided that, being alive, nothing was beyond her reach. Being Inga, she chose of course to start with the Holocaust, undaunted by the vast scholarly record it had generated. She wanted to try to understand it by focusing on the accounts of both survivors and perpetrators, and gave us Reading the Holocaust, which we published in 1998. It became a New York Times notable book.